Learning that your boyfriend or husband has been unfaithful can feel devastating!
Whether he has persistently viewed pornography, engaged in cybersex, cheated by participating in a one-time or ongoing affair, the traumatic impact on your mind, body and heart can be devastating! The news feels overwhelming, your life is disrupted, and you may have trouble managing parts of your life as you are left to pick up the pieces. And trust and forgiveness are far-off concepts. Whether you decide to continue the relationship or not, participating in a safe, supportive community while learning insights and skills to move through the traumatic effects is vital for your well-being.
Symptoms of Betrayal
The criteria for a relationship or sexual betrayal are quite similar to those of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) even if the psychological diagnosis does not fully fit. Some common responses of learning about and reacting to a betrayal include:
- Severe anxiety
- Loss of interest in activities
- Unwanted thoughts
- Heightened emotions
Does Your Partner Have a Problem? Tell him to take this brief assessment.
It only takes five minutes for your partner or spouse to take the anonymous and FREE Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST). He will receive instant results and recommendations for his next steps. He will need help from a trained therapist. We know other therapists in the area who can provide help using the same framework for healing and (with a signed Release of Information) can communicate with them to coordinate care.
Does a Therapy Group Help?
Yes! Talking with a professional counselor who is trained and passionate about helping women process and endure the thoughts, feelings and symptoms of betrayal can be tremendously helpful. Meeting regularly in a supportive group with a few other women who share similar struggles will hep you feel validated and reminds you that you are not alone. Along with engaging the practical Tasks in the “Facing Heartbreak” workbook, the support and guidance in this group can boost personal growth and give you hope!
Feeling like you have control over your life again can be the greatest freedom! Don’t wait another week just to be stuck in the same painful, isolating and confusing cycle.
“Facing Heartbreak” 12-Session Women’s Sexual Betrayal Recovery Group
Join a few other women to work through the very helpful, detailed and evidence-supported workbook “Facing Heartbreak” by Dr. Stefanie Carnes, a passionate expert in sex addiction and partner recovery. Much more than a support group, this therapy group is led by a master’s level licensed counselor who is also a couple therapist, trauma-trained, and certified sexual addiction therapist. Participants often feel very supported in a group of other women who are experiencing a very similar reaction.
The process and workbook include structured exercises that can be put into practice immediately to help participants regain focus, make sense of their relational trauma and step into a healthy balance of self-care and social support.
Before the First Weekly Group Meeting
Contact Alex for a one-time individual session to learn about the group, to determine if participating in a group and/or individual counseling with Alex or another trauma-sensitive, betrayal-trained therapist would be helpful.
Please purchase the “Facing Heartbreak” workbook (by Dr. Stefanie Carnes, Mari Lee, and Anthony Rodriquez) prior to our first group session. This workbook is available on Amazon.com.
What Happens After the 12-Session Group?
Once completing the initial 12 sessions, additional support will be needed to stay on track and continue to strengthen all aspects of our being. Many groups continue meeting for several weeks or months for the continuity of this specific supportive community that is safe, understanding and knows your story.
Click CLASS REGISTRATION to secure your spot in one of our groups today!
Who Will be Facilitating This Group?
Alex is a trauma-trained couple therapist, sex therapist and Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist who holds advance training and special insight into how the behavior of a sexually addicted person or one who had an affair impacts the betrayed partner and what she needs at every stage of her healing process.
NOTE: This is facilitated by a MALE counselor. Alex knows about and is sensitive to the devastating impact of betrayal, he knows that intimacy is more than sex (in fact, he wrote the book 40 Forms of Intimacy® to help men and women understand and enjoy 39 other ways of connecting that do not include sex), he has presented to other CSAT professionals at the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals Symposium on the topic: “Engaging the 40 Forms of Intimacy® When Sex is Off the Table.”
If you have any hesitations about meeting with a male counselor for this type of group, meet with him! And, read over 70 testimonials from men and women who have attended his couple workshops.
Who Can I Contact to Answer My Questions?
Alex A. Avila: 720-316-7771
Main Office: 303-792-5686
(You will receive all the information below in an automated-reply email after you register.)
You are registering for the 12-week Women’s Sexual Betrayal Therapy Group on Tuesdays, 9:30am-11:00am, beginning Tuesday, January 7, 2020. We will not meet 3/10 (and possibly not on 3/17), but we will schedule a makeup day for at least one of those missed Tuesdays.
We will cover SO MUCH MORE than just emotional and sexual betrayal in this group. We discuss areas such as stress, health, balance, money, roles, expectations, identity, marriage and family relationships, and more!
Please follow the prompts to make payment after registering and make the first monthly payment of $260 to secure your spot. Each 90-minute sessions costs $65. When you start the group, you are committing* to remain in the group for 12 sessions to create safety and maintain consistency. You will receive emotional support and join a community of women with similar struggles and needs to which you will also provide care and support by your steady presence.
*If you discover that the group is not a good fit for your present needs, you may discontinue the group after the first month without being charged going forward.
OUR GROUP IS CURRENTLY OPEN! For an effective group experience, we need a minimum of 5 women and will have a maximum of 7. If we do not reach our minimum, we will let you know as soon as we can and discuss the possibility of starting with fewer women (bare minimum of 3) and allow others to join in the future.
- Make sure you can attend all the groups. Regular attendance is vital. If you know that you will miss more than one of the group dates, please contact Alex. Although we know unexpected things can arise, missing multiple sessions can negatively impact the group experience. When you start the group, you are committing* to remain in the group to create safety and maintain consistency. You will receive support and join a community of group participants with similar struggles and needs to which you will provide care and support by your consistent presence.
- Pay to secure your spot. Continue to the payment section and make the first monthly payment of $260 to secure your spot and make payment for the first month (4 group sessions). Each 90-minute weekly session costs $65. Your credit card will be charged $65 weekly for the remaining eight weeks. Many groups decide to continue meeting weekly for an additional 12 weeks, and so we always consider and discuss that possibility as a group.
- Purchase the “Facing Heartbreak” workbook by Dr. Stefanie Carnes, Mari Lee, & Anthony Rodriguez prior to our first group session.
- Schedule an individual appointment with Alex prior to the first group session. You will discuss your goals and learn about the group process.
- Attend the weekly group to recover from the immense pain associated with betrayal and experience life and relationship growth while understanding you are not alone and there is help!
Lastly, you will need to complete the appropriate paperwork prior to the first session. Soon after you register, we will schedule an individual session and email you a link to our secure client portal for you to complete new client paperwork.
Thank you and we look forward to meeting with you soon!